Americans just love a good rebel.
We celebrate 'going against the grain' and 'dancing to the beat of our own drum'.
I am all about a good underdog against the world story as well. But, what if most of the time the person you end up going against is..... well, yourself?
We rebel against ourselves a few tried and true ways.
Ignoring that little voice inside you?
Stuffing it down like Thanksgiving dinner... trying to make it go away... yeah, this doesn't generally work well. Listen up! That intuitive part of you has your best interest at heart.
This could be that whisper you experience when in a lopsided relationship. It's that nagging emotion popping up when a job can't take you any farther.
We fight it because it's inconvenient.
We feel safe in that familiar place, even if it is defeating, stifling, or sad.
When we stop fighting this little voice and ACT it is really SCARY.
But it's the first step to freedom.
What would have happened if Tim Robbins and Morgan Freeman would have just resigned themselves to life in Shawshank???
Telling yourself you should be thinner, smarter, richer?
(insert negative self-talk here)....
We should have a Ph.D. at 25, travel the world, and grow our own organic food while honing our debate skills so that we can appear on Real Time With Bill Maher, right?
We should do these things and then we'll be happy.
There are times when I really miss life before social media and 1,000 cable channels.
Did we SHOULD so much back then?
It's exhausting to fight against yourself with SHOULDS.
We can listen. We can let go.
It's completely scary, exciting, and real.
Wake up, get real, and listen to your own good advice.
You might just find that you're an expert on knowing what's good for you.